Badass Moments: Why the Little Wins Matter More Than You Think

Some days you’re building an empire.
Other days? You’re building the emotional strength to not scream when someone texts “u up?” at 2 a.m. or the baby starts crying the second you sit down.

You know those days when you’re just… surviving? Running on snacks, chaos, and the holy trinity of fuel: caffeine, dry shampoo, and sheer willpower? Yeah. Those days.

Well, it all started when I took a full-ass shower without the baby waking up, without getting interrupted mid-shampoo, and with the water temp actually perfect. I didn’t even cry or rushed. And afterward? I felt like Beyoncé-level unstoppable. It wasn’t a big thing. But it was everything.

There are days that feel powerful.
And then there are the days you’re just surviving off cold coffee or matcha, dry shampoo, and maybe a silent prayer whispered into a laundry pile.

But then something shifts.

You brush your hair.
You answer that email.
You light a candle.
You cry in the shower and still get out and show up.

That moment right there? That’s what I call a Badass Moment.

💫 So… What Are Badass Moments?

They’re the small, everyday wins that remind you you’re still here, still trying, and still kinda killing it, even when everything feels like it’s on fire.

It’s not about productivity or perfection.

It’s about being present, grateful, and taking back your power in the middle of the mess.

A Badass Moment isn’t a promotion.
It’s not running a marathon or suddenly becoming someone who drinks green juice without gagging. I like these juices just in case you do want to try them.

It’s subtle.
It’s yours.
It’s that second of peace, that tiny spark of energy, that flicker of “I’m still here and surviving”

A Badass Moment is:

• Choosing to rest even when your to-do list is screaming.
• Saying “no” when you always say “yes.”
• Reapplying lipstick just to feel like you again.
• Setting boundaries. Leaving the text on read.
• Laughing when you want to cry. Or crying and laughing because life is just that weird.

They don’t show up in highlight reels but they’re the quiet proof you’re still fighting for yourself.

✨ Real Life Badass Moments Look Like:

Throwing a blanket over your bed and calling it “made.” I mean it is proven that making your bed helps you feel accomplished and badass LOL

➤ Pro tip: A cute bed throw like this chunky knit one makes the fake it till you make it vibe look intentional.

Wearing red lipstick to the grocery store just because you want to feel hot.

➤ I swear by this matte long lasting liquid lipstick stays on through coffee and baby drool.

Heating up your coffee or matcha only once before actually finishing it.

➤ Want a hot beverage all day? This insulated travel mug will keep your drinks just how you like them.

Putting on a comfy but cute matching lounge set that says, “I care… a little.”

➤ I love this one from Amazon is my favorite because it’s soft, stylish, and stretchy where it counts.

You left the dishes in the sink, lit a candle, and took a breath.
➤ Obsessed with this scent it smells like peace and rebellion.

Saying “no” without over-explaining.

➤ Bonus points if you wrote it down in your “I’m the boss” affirmation journal.

These moments aren’t Instagrammable, some might be… ( I post mine check it out)

They’re not life-changing.

But they’re the sh*t that gets you through the day and that absolutely makes you a badass.

💥 Why They Actually Matter (Like, Scientifically)

We’ve been taught to measure our worth in big milestones: the job, the ring, the baby, the house, the bounce back body.

But real life?
Real life is messy.
It’s loud and quiet and too much and not enough all at once.

And if we wait to feel proud of ourselves only at the finish line we’ll miss all the magic that happens along the way.

We wait too long to celebrate ourselves. We’re taught to only pop the champagne when we hit some big goal; new job, engagement, abs. But girl, just surviving some days deserves a toast.

Badass Moments help you reclaim your narrative.
They remind you that power can look like softness. That resilience doesn’t always roar. That surviving the day is worth celebrating.

There’s even science to back it up. Psychologists call it “savoring” the act of intentionally noticing the good in your day. Studies show it

• Reduces anxiety
• Increases happiness,
• Improves your mood
• Builds emotional strength and resilience
• Rewires your brain to look for joy instead of chaos

In other words: your tiny wins are literally healing your brain. #hotmesstherapy

So no, you’re not dramatic for crying happy tears over a quiet coffee or solo Target run. You’re just rewiring your brain to survive this mess with a little more joy.

🧘‍♀️ How to Start Finding Your Own Badass Moments

Want in? Here’s how to start celebrating the small sh*t:

1. Pause. Ask yourself, “What actually felt good today?”
2. Write it down. Grab a cute notebook or planner and track your tiny wins. I post them on Instagram
3. Celebrate it. Literally say out loud. A “hell yeah” or a dance party. You deserve it!

🎯 Final Pep Talk

You don’t need to have it all together to be powerful.
You don’t need a glow-up, a man, a baby, a six-figure launch, or a clean kitchen.

You just need to notice yourself in the mess.
To claim your wins, even the ones no one else sees.

The world won’t always clap for you.
So clap for yourself. Loud. Often. With glitter.

Because this season of life whatever it looks like isn’t about perfection. It’s about presence. And that, is badass. So stop waiting for the “big” wins.

The small ones are already happening, and they’re making you stronger, softer, and more of a badass than you even realize.

So go ahead.

Celebrate the small sh*t.

You earned it.

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👇 What’s your Badass Moment today?

Drop it in the comments or tag me on IG @embracethemess.co using #BadassMomentOfTheDay.

Let’s start a movement where we clap for ourselves daily because survival deserves celebration.

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